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The Art of Tracing Steps

We took the boy to the movies Sunday. It was not Oz the Great or even Oz the Good. Totally Oz the Mediocre. Oz, who really could have been better. And wow does James Franco look permanently stoned, or what? After the fact we were thinking…maybe we should have sent my son in to the theater on his own while we caught a showing of something better, like Silver Linings Playbook, but that seems sort of sad. Not that he would have minded. Oh the joys of autism.

So this morning we have sunshine, which is making me feel a little better, but yesterday we woke up to more ENDLESS WINTER. With more snow days out in the suburbs (but not in our school district). I worked from home, because I can, and watched the snow coming down through the picture window while I cozied up on the couch with cats and my laptop. Then I read that BiteSquad food delivery has expanded to St Paul. Made me think about barricading myself in my home until the end of time and having all my meals delivered by BiteSquad. Or at least until this stupid winter finally ends. But no. We have places to go, people to see. And I enjoy cooking too much.

Recently I learned about some semi-local awesomeness. “The Nu Project’s Nude Photos Tell The Truth About Women’s Bodies” - a friend modeled for it a while ago. I missed out on the kickstarter but the book is still available for pre-order. Naturally I love the ideas behind it, of “Beauty in Every Body” and that we don’t all have to aspire to the nearly unattainable yet generic airbrushed stick thin beauty of the super models we see in mainstream media.

That’s also what drew me to Perfect Patrick’s Pretty Pretty Princess Pageant at the Turf Club.

Are you tired of being an ugly and stupid hairy man? Are you a female who has adopted an “alternative” or “punk” look as a way to shield your vulnerable side from a world of ugly and stupid hairy men?

Are you something else that just wants to wear a lot of make-up, fake jewels, then cover yourself in glitter, and drink $3 tallboys while “alternative” or “punk” bands delight and awe you?

So many photo ops and so much fun that night! I don’t care if the glitter never washes out! It was totally worth it.

I first came across Susan Schorn via McSweeney’s. She’s one of those writers who had me nodding my head. We’ve lived strangely similar lives. So when I found out about her book that’s coming out, I pre-ordered a copy:
Smile at Strangers and Other Lessons in the Art of Living Fearlessly.

Pause. Deep breath. And now back to life, which has been in runaway train mode. Really looking forward to my son’s impending “Spring” break and a week away from our overly busy lives. Hoping things settle down a bit for actual Spring, whenever that season chooses to arrive.

Alex, gazing out the window

You Can’t Put a Price On Mojo

Oh Minnesota in March. Today and tomorrow will be all about the snow dramarama. There have been school closures (a pretty rare thing) but not for my son. Though I did receive conflicting robo calls from the school district and the school about whether or not students would be dismissed early today. Either way, the roads are seriously rough. Spin outs and accidents and cars in ditches everywhere. Snow emergencies have been declared in both St Paul and Minneapolis. I am content to stay put at home with my car safely stowed in the garage. And I’m once again thanking my lucky stars that my landlord pays for snow removal service. I’m sad I’ll likely be skipping kickboxing tonight due to the inclement weather. But it’s not worth putting myself in danger just so I can go punch and kick others, even though I love it so.

Five good things, plus one sticky one, for this wildly wintry Tuesday:

Last weekend was a busy one. Dinner with a friend and swimming with my son Friday. Kickboxing Saturday along with house cleaning and then a house show. All day brunch at our place Sunday. And later that night I had a funny photo shoot with a band. We trekked outside, in the dark, up and down snowy hills and along railroad tracks to get to a ravine. I was bundled up and wearing my hiking boots. The actual photography part took maybe 15 minutes and then we slogged back to the cars. I went straight home. Where I decided to take out the trash. And that’s where I wiped out on ice, hard, in my alley. The heck? Earlier I was fine while hiking through treacherous icy locations, like a sure footed little goat. Guess I just wasn’t paying enough attention in my own back yard. At least I was so bundled up in layers under my puffy parka it cushioned my fall, even when I landed on my elbow.

Morgan is nom nom noming

Flexibility of the Mind

There’s a secret room in the basement of our duplex that only the management company has access to. I’ve lived there since 2011 and had never seen inside. But my imagination filled in the blanks. Earlier today I went down to the basement, to do some laundry. The door was open.

dun dun dun 

And it’s just a sad empty-ish room. With some paint cans and a ladder. Crushing disappointment. At least it isn’t a sex dungeon. That would have been unsettling. And I’m not sure how I’d explain that to our soon-to-be roommate. Yes, my wonderful boyfriend has agreed to move in to my current abode. In St. Paul. Which will save me a lot stress and a good chunk of money every month. And enable me to save up for the super fun vacation we’re planning for the summer time. A train trip to Montreal!

Five more good things:

  • We should all be watching at least one TED talk a week. Today I was entertained by this one with Reggie Watts.
  • Last Thursday night I bailed on seeing my friends perform at the Kitty Cat Klub (too late / I’m too old) and intended to stay in to watch a live streaming performance of Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds in LA. But I fell asleep instead. Thankfully it was online for 24 hours. I was able to watch it on Friday before it was pulled (a director’s cut is coming soon). But now I’m full of even more regret. For not having gotten tickets to the Chicago show. Kept hoping for a last minute Minneapolis announcement. Wah-wah. Last time I saw Nick Cave was with Grinderman and I haven’t seen him with the Bad Seeds in over a decade.
  • Didn’t watch the Oscars, but after the fact I enjoyed seeing seeingthe good bits with Jennifer Lawrence. I already thought she was pretty ace after Winter’s Bone but my opinion of her is only climbing now. She seems like a real human person!
  • I’ve also been enjoying the sophomore effort from Denmark’s Iceage. You can hear a bit of it here. And I did get us tickets to their upcoming show at the Triple Rock, with local favorites Condominium opening.
  • Random mid-winter want: hot tub boats controlled by joystick. That, or a trip to warmer climes.

We warmed things up Friday night with good times with good friends at the Dust Buns tape release show at the Eagles Club. But Saturday was the main event. STNNNG release / 10th anniversary show split across three venues and many many hours. It was a strangely emotional and exhausting event and I felt fairly useless on Sunday. Though I did manage to blow through all my photo editing. Need to post a round-up on my sadly neglected photo blog. Posting my intention here will make me follow through. Yeah.

Signal to Trust 2013, and friends

Power Creep In Storytelling

Last weekend was a busy one. Saw Warm Bodies Friday night with the boyfriend (the book was better but the movie was cute). Kickboxing Saturday morning. Show at the Kitty Cat Klub Saturday night. Snow tubing in the suburbs on Sunday plus a visit with my Dad. A friend’s birthday party at The Butcher & The Boar Sunday night. Fun times, to be sure. But major stressors were thrown into the mix. Expensive car repairs. Debating whether or not to renew my lease and/or enter into a cohabitation situation. Realizing I need to start booking my 40th birthday party show now! Thankfully things seem to be working out.

Five interesting items of note:

This weekend is shaping up to be just as busy. We’re going to party like it’s 2006! Some old friends are in town (and some no-longer friends, eep) for STNNNG’s new album release show / Modern Radio Records 10th anniversary. It begins with a 5pm house show which leads into simultaneous or slightly alternating sets at both the Turf and Big V’s. It’s going to be one helluva night. Thankfully my son will be staying overnight with his Dad.

Manny

Spectator Paradox

Waking up to the news of the Russian meteor shower was interesting. And those of us with overactive imaginations were thinking up all sorts of crazy scenarios. But no, we are not under attack. And it isn’t related to the asteroid that also flew by earth today. I am thankful that so many Russians have dash cams in their cars. Though the reason is sad - insurance scams. Because of them the rest of the world was able to view a variety of captures of this event.

Five more cool nature / science-y things:

Last night the boyfriend took me out to a very special Valentine’s Day dinner at The Bell Museum. Where we wound up being interviewed by a Pioneer Press reporter in this piece: Bell Museum offers ’science nerds’ a place to celebrate love. My photos from the evening are here. It was a nice little break from some big ticket stress items in my life right now. Which I should probably attend to sooner rather than later.

Clint, by the light of a globe

The Uncertainty Principle

Never quite got the hang of my Monday. The morning was filled with life’s little indignities. Like taking out the trash only to have the bag full of USED CAT LITTER tear open all over my icy back steps. And when I’d cleaned up that mess and made my way to the garbage bins in the alley…they were frozen shut. Felt like that really set the tone for the day. Good thing I chose to hunker down and work from home.

How about five good things?

I could probably benefit from a SAD lamp. The mid-winter February blues have hit me hard all of a sudden. Can’t afford any kind of get away right now. Well, only in my mind. And as much as I detest the prolonged heat and humidity I’m daydreaming about summertime. In happy fun summer news, Northern Spark is moving to St. Paul in June. I know I need to live in the NOW and all that jazz, even if the now is a frozen filthy slush-filled tundra. But it helps to have things to look forward to as well.

chess with my son

Keeping My Sugar On the Shelf

Losing weight has become an expensive proposition. This is news to no one, I’m sure. But I’m already broke and racking it up! Threw $10 in the pot for the DietBet (gambling on my will power is sure to be a losing proposition), $30 for a scale, pre-ordered a FitBit Flex for $99, our YWCA membership is $76/month, $99 for a three-month trial membership at the MN Kali Group and yet more money for kickboxing gear. New shoes, kali sticks, boxing gloves, focus mitts, etc. At least I’m enjoying the kickboxing part. A lot. Though last Saturday’s class was grueling, when I was holding pads for an amazingly strong and tall amazon who beat the hell out of me. Tonight was another story. Only two of us showed up for class and there happened to be two instructors on hand. So we were able to work more intensely on form. Which included a lot of elbow strikes. And some grappling. Super awesome.

I sort of blew it on eating a little too well last weekend. Used two Groupons for dinner out - Friday night at Rice Paper and Saturday night at Fuji Ya. And the boyfriend treated me to brunch Sunday at Modern Times. Yesterday was all about salad. So thankful for my vegetable spiralizer. But then I went and used my avocados up to make this chocolate pudding again. That’s semi-healthy, right?

Five good things for this Tuesday:

This coming Saturday will mark the eighth and final show of the Outlet Performance Festival. The boyfriend and I have attended each, and I’ve been photographing them. It has come to seem natural that we should spend our Saturday evenings in the basement of Los Amigos. But after this weekend we’ll just have to find something else to do.

HIJACK's "Death Drop Workshop"

A Little Respect

After years of dragging my feet I finally set up a mint.com account and entered all my info and now it’s scolding me! Thanks, mint. It’s no news that my checking account balance is LOW. Or that I spend too much on rent and groceries. But the pie chart representing these facts sure is pretty.

Five good things on this bitterly cold Thursday:

After school today the boy and I have to rush off to Twin Cities Magic & Costume. To their newest location (they moved again, dammit). Bought a Groupon for Halloween but never got around to using it. The danged thing expires today and they’re only open until 6pm. Oh no, I don’t procrastinate much.

37th Annual Saintly City Cat Club Annual Championship Cat Show

Adjusting the Sails

Art Sled Rally 2013 was sort of a sad slippery mess. The hills were so icy I was amazed no one in our group wiped out while just walking around. Still, it was a good time and there were some swell sleds. Our favorites were Lady Rainicorn, a Mario Kart and the yellow submarine. The latter had the most spectacular crash with the sled splintering apart upon impact with a bale of hay (but the sledder was ok, he gave the thumbs up sign and everything). Naturally we got some fresh snow the day after the event. Gee thanks Mother Nature.

Five good things for this Monday:

So I guess it’s ok to eat quinoa. Blurgh, news media. Maybe I need to brush up on my critical thinking skills. After reading pieces in well-regarded publications I don’t know which way is up and which way is down. Speaking of, I’ve got a big backlog of photos to edit. Photos coming out of my ears! Figuratively. But when I’m done I will have more photos from another Outlet performance, the cat show brunch, the cat show itself and more.

sad polar bear, went down the hill in a wheelchair on skis

Under the Rock

Maaaaan. Been feeling like Sisyphus lately. Sometimes the short work / school weeks are so much rougher than our usual five day weeks. Maybe it’s the break from routine (in a household with autism this is definitely a factor). Then there’s trying to cram five days’ worth of work into four. And I have a host of random complaints. At the beginning of the week I was served a legal summons for some unresolved financial crap. Naturally now is the time my beater car needs a new water pump and timing belt. And I should gather all my tax return materials together. Oh, and my iPhone needs to be replaced but I haven’t had time to deal with the Apple Store’s Genius Bar.

Sigh. In the face of all that how about five good things for this Friday?

It wasn’t that it was the new year but rather that it is the year in which I turn 40. I know, I know, age ain’t nothing but a number and all that but I’ve always found milestones to be significant. And this is a pretty significant milestone. So I’m taking better care of myself. I just turned down free donuts at work! And I got roped into a DietBet with friends starting February 1st. Those things are tough and tedious but you know what’s awesome? Kickboxing. Yeah. My very delayed return to this activity has been so incredibly rewarding. Endorphin highs every time! And I’m less and less sore. I look forward to the brutal conditioning at the end of each class. Hell yes.

Informational speech guru, Rana May